If you don't accept responsibility for your own actions, then you are forever chained to a position of defense.
Actions have consequences...first rule of life. And the second rule is this - you are the only one responsible for your own actions.
You must learn to face the fact, always, that you choose to do what you do, and that everything you do affects not only you but others.
I would rather be right and die than be wrong and kill.
The only place you will be accepted is the place you make for yourself.