It's all knowing what to start with. If you start in the right place and follow all the steps, you will get to the right end.
One thing nobody can do better than you is be you.
People are people, messy and mutable, combining differently with one another from day to day - even hour to hour.
No matter what I do, no matter how predictable I try to make my life, it will not be any more predictable than the rest of the world. Which is chaotic.